Middle-Aged Woman Stuff
I read recently on a site about balancing our hormones, that there are certain things going on in my body and with my attitude that actually should be happening.
What a relief! Especially the part about being bitchy. I’ve been horrendously bitchy now for a few weeks. It’s not my favorite state of mind. After all, I live in paradise. The weather is warm, I have a wonderful relationship, nice house, lots of fabulous furry kids, friends who are family, a great job, etc. etc. I feel like a total ingrate when I’m bitchy.
But, according to this article (which I actually read a while back and can’t find this minute), women at my age really have a right to be bitchy. We are allowed to get irritated at people who interrupt us when we’re trying to do things….family members or whomever. Because we have given of ourselves for soooo many years, that we need this time to settle into our space. Our own space. And the kids should be out of the nest, and there should be time for rest and reflection. And when there isn’t…..guess who shows up and sticks around? The bitch!
Well, this bitch is officially on vacation for a week…. Hopefully…. We’ll see how I feel when I get back.
Maybe I’ll need a solo spa vacation after this one 
……
June 30th, 2008 at 6:43 pm
When I was entering “The Change” I was so very fortunate that a group of women who were also feeling the “symptoms” gathered once a month to share research and experiences. Some of them were in their early thirties and the eldest was almost sixty.
Vows were taken to never divulge any personal info but here are the basics:
Every woman is different.
Talk to your mother and other female relatives.
There are natural alternatives to hormone replacement.
One does get through it.
July 4th, 2008 at 7:42 pm
Oh, I realize all of this, Lisa. Can’t talk to my Mom, though.
I refuse to do HRT, and I also know that it will get better with time.
Just trying to rationalize all of my recent emotional turmoil.
Thanks!
July 5th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
Well, your bitchy attitude just cost the VI millions of dollars in advertising and international exposure to 50 million people with the kind of disposable income that allows travel… don’t you find it weird to have that kind of power… but then what you cost the VI, of which you are so fond, has been transferred to both the BVI and Puerto Rico… their gain, the VI lost… and you, with your hormonal imbalance can take credit for it… I am sure our government would like to know where to point the blame… just ask the Governor if you doubt it… tell him how you single handedly in your bitchy mood, drove all those dollars away.
July 6th, 2008 at 7:18 am
Wrong Island I’m afraid Edie.
You are thinking of the mojo slinging Voodoo Priestess of Haiti “Terrible Terri”. Yes this woman single handedly ruined the island of Haiti by her blog “Livin’ on Haiti”.
It involved something about a black pig.
Terry lives on St Croix where there are beer drinking pigs.
Now don’t you feel silly?
July 6th, 2008 at 8:59 am
wrong, Wreggie… right Terry… I AM talking of the “hands-on” Terry of STX… see what her hands can do for you… especially in your hotel room… on Norma’s Island where pigs drink beer, long before you Continentals moved here… or were you talking of the pigs that come to watch the beer drinking pigs.
July 6th, 2008 at 10:17 am
You’ve got me wrong Edie. I am one of the lucky folks that have expendable income that visits your island as often as my wife will allow. I love the people, the culture and the weather of St Croix. I chose to fly there and spend thousands of dollars every year. I bring friends and they spend thousands of dollars every year. I will continue to do so.
A person being in a mood is not going to change my recreation habits. A person openly confronting said mood is not going to change my recreation habits either.
Be a little more tolerant of your perceived adversaries, sometimes they are right.
I was just making light of the power you think Terry holds over millions of people in the world dying to come to your island if it weren’t for Terry.
Terry is a solid friend of mine for 6 years, she has a passion for life, the island and has the highest ethical standards in her industry. To imply otherwise borderlines slander.
Right now I am in the coastal wetlands of Georgia. Back in the late 60’s developers thought it would be a good idea to develop the wetlands like they did in south Florida. A grass roots effort was put forth to save this area.
Thankfully the natural environment was saved and the recreation, shrimp and fishing industry thrives.
St Croix does not have the infrastructure to support a larger amount of recreational development without importation of “Continentals”. Sorry, locals born and raised on the island have almost no idea of what visitors expect when they spend tourists dollars. I think the attitude of locals is endearing but many of my colleagues think the attitude is rude. The fact is the Cruzan culture is ill equipped to serve the needs of large amounts of tourists.
Hang around the Divi Casino for a few hours and watch the drone like service the locals give on their tables. Look around and you’ll see half the patrons are locals wasting their money at the slots and tables. They are not wealthy tourists spending big sums of money.
If you think filling in a salt pond and building another casino is good for the island then good for you. Bully! If one thinks it is a bad idea the good for them too.
What Terry has allowed is a forum where issues can be discussed and where we are free to voice opinion.
July 6th, 2008 at 12:19 pm
I have always felt that St. Croix is an island where smaller, more personal resorts work better, and I wish that was the direction developers would take… Tourism for the masses ruins small places, look at what has happened to St. Thomas, Venice, Hawaii, the list goes on… They get lots of money from big cruise ships, big resorts, but the quality of life for those that live there year round is not as pleasant as it is was before they were “discovered”. Why do we live in a society that feels bigger is better? The natural forces that slowed St. Croix’s development in the late 80s, namely Hurricane Hugo, as devastating as it was for those of us that lived there, could be looked upon as a blessing in disguise. There were at least 3 major developments in the hopper before that storm hit, as I remember, and afterwards, the developers called a halt to their projects. Since then, growth has been slow, economics tough, but the beauty of the island has remained. Now, another economic slow down is upon us, the high price of fuel, reducing the number of flights to the islands. It is too early to tell if it will be another blessing in disguise, if that will put some of these pending developments on hold again. What I do know is that St. Croix, having been in a time warp so to speak, is a gem in the “rough”. The “rough” is the pristine beaches of Sandy Point, Butler Bay, Issac’s Bay, Jack’s Bay, most of the West End, the panoramic, unspoiled beauty of scenic drive, the open vistas along it’s shorelines on the South Shore, West End, and Cane Bay that are wide open to the sea for everyone to view at sunrise or sunset without large walls and gates blocking the views. It is the winding, slow drives through Mahogany Road, or up Creque Dam road, or up Blue Mountain that are lined with ancient large trees that would be cut down if the roads had to be widened for more traffic. I know it is difficult to make a living on St. Croix, it takes imagination, and resourcefulness to make ends meet. I did it for 25 years as an artist, and my economic dependence on the island’s tourism still exists. But when I make my annual return to my spiritual home every year, I thank the powers above, that St. Croix has been saved from the large, commercial developers that could change the soul of the island. Amen
July 6th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Amen Trudi.
I had the pleasure of hiking for the first time a few weeks ago, Jacks Bay, Issac’s Bay and the tidal pools.
I love the small resorts too or single villas over the big places. You get to know the owners.
Both the Carambola and Divi are understaffed with qualified service industry types now.
I was walking my dogs this morning in the campground at Jekyll Island when a fellow stopped my wife and I when he saw our Cruzan Bracelets. He was born and raised in St Thomas and left the island 20 years ago for the mainland because of development.
He looked to be in his late 60’s and fondly recalled the good old days before it was wall to wall people.
July 6th, 2008 at 2:37 pm
Trudi - well said.
edie, edward, norma’s admirer, or whoever you’re calling yourself today - I am further amazed at Terry’s meteoric rise from obscure blogger, to pop icon, and now… IMPERIAL RULER of St. Croix, who single-handedly, with her attitude, her mere mood, can change the course of millions of dollars and 50 million people with disposable income. Here’s a quote from the St. Croix Environmental Association (SEA) response to the press release from Iceman productions regarding the decision to postpone the race:
Incredible! In just 14 short years here Terry has all of these agencies doing her bidding.
July 6th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
PS: if the 50 million viewers who were allegedly going to view the speed-boat race have all this disposable income for travel, why are they at home in front of the Boobtube instead of down here enjoying the treasures of St. Croix? … oh yeah, forgot, Terry’s attitude
July 6th, 2008 at 3:10 pm
Right again, Trudi. And thanks for the support, Wreg.
My daughter has warned me to use my power for good, not evil.
So….I promise never to try to schedule a power boat race in an environmentally sensitive area during the height of turtle mating and nesting season.
I vow to really research things or use common sense in all that I do that may have an effect on other people and their comfort.
This means I will never ride a jet-ski, smoke a cigarette, put boom speakers in my car to shake up anyone within a block of where I’m driving or park behind a legally parked person blocking him or her in, when there are many other spots to park my lazy butt.
I will continue to provide excellent service to my clients and not try to infringe upon the rights of anyone by performing loud, obnoxious, polluting or deadly massages.
I will continue to support and do volunteer work for local non-profit organizations.
I will never throw trash out my car windows or leave dirty diapers, condoms, or food leftovers or containers on the beach.
And I will not sneak the name of my business anywhere it’s obviously not asked for….
July 6th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
As one approaching her 60th! yikes!! I find it amazing that all this dialog is under the heading: Middle Aged Woman Stuff…. that says something to me.
July 6th, 2008 at 4:30 pm
True Trudi. We hijacked her blog in her absence.
I was afraid to comment about the subject written. It is a loose loose topic for a guy.
July 6th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
The funniest thing about it is, that I wrote it before we left. And there were NO comments when we got back.
I just figured it was too boring for anyone to comment on. But “edie” found some of my past blogging “transgressions” last night, commented on many of them, and made sure to spice up this post as well.
I haven’t had a chance to write a new post because I’ve been responding to his/her comments.
Hysterical!
July 6th, 2008 at 4:48 pm
So, Terry, I gotta know, didn’t your one week in Southern-Cal make you realize how lucky you are to live on St. Croix?
July 6th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Absolutely, Trudi. There’s too much crap up there. But I’ve known that, and that’s why I want this place to stay nice.
I’m working on a post about the trip…
July 6th, 2008 at 6:07 pm
Amazing where this all has gone…
Thank you Michael for explaining what “edie” was accusing Terry of doing.
Trudi’s “rough gem” story leaves out the development that was on (and off) the drawing boards in the late 1960s that the Fountain Valley Massacre put on hold.
Part of the plan was to have the highway continue west south of the salt pond, which was going to become a marina, and then curve north towards F’sted along the western shore lined with high-rise hotels. The sinking of some heavy equipment in the quicksand around the small pond just southwest of where the Sandy Point gate is now made them rethink that.
The model for the condos that were going to be a 32 story “Inca pyramid” style resort are still there in ruins just west of Cheney Bay, Those walls on the beach were going to be the entrance to the marina.
The Crusader Tower at Salt River… and more. BUT gotta go now
July 8th, 2008 at 10:06 pm
The palms are not the only things that got cuts
still a trace of “it” here
power for true
speaking of hijacking this blog - it took me awhile to respond, the original group got started at a lecture about HRT at Villa Madeleine and we all knew we didn’t want to do that
And no one has replied to the driving blogs. I might get to them with our Utah, Wyoming, Montana, Arizona trip…
Watching the Deagio (spelling?) hearing but ready to give up
July 9th, 2008 at 8:37 am
Well, Lisa, when the harassment factor overrides the entertainment factor, something has to be done. So it was.
I could do the same here, but the entertaining ones still (and will continue) to outnumber the nasty ones.
Wow, traveling far and wide!
I don’t know how people can watch senate sessions. Those windbags just like to hear themselves talk.